How we perceive things that happens in our lives
I am a strong believer that things happens for a reason. You’ve probably heard this sentence countless times. But, I personally believe in it because I know that it is true in my own life experience.
In the same way we can look at an object from many different angles and in different lighting, we can look at situations that happens in our lives. There is nothing wrong or right, only different perspectives. There are not even negative or positive in a way, because there are only different directions.
Something can be perceived in a negative or positive way in the moment it happens and it might be judged and truthful in the way it was perceived for a longer period of time, but that can change in a blink of an eye.
What I am trying to explain to you can be explained in this story:
The Story of the Taoist Farmer
This farmer had only one horse, and one day the horse ran away. The neighbors came to condole over his terrible loss. The farmer said, “What makes you think it is so terrible?”
A month later, the horse came home–this time bringing with her two beautiful wild horses. The neighbors became excited at the farmer’s good fortune. Such lovely strong horses! The farmer said, “What makes you think this is good fortune?”
The farmer’s son was thrown from one of the wild horses and broke his leg. All the neighbors were very distressed. Such bad luck! The farmer said, “What makes you think it is bad?”
A war came, and every able-bodied man was conscripted and sent into battle. Only the farmer’s son, because he had a broken leg, remained. The neighbors congratulated the farmer. “What makes you think this is good?” said the farmer.
As told by Executive editor, Elise Hancock, in the Johns Hopkins Magazine, November 1993, page 2, in section entitled Editor’s Note.
Beautiful insights from the University of life
Rewind – A couple of months ago – Because of a mixture of events that had happened in my life I decided to purchase this e-book. Before I had gone through the whole process of the purchase I had ended up with all the extra material that were offered as a special deal (that really showed how unbalanced I was at the time buying into all the extras that was discounted if bought together as a package!)
My intention was to get it all then cancel after 30 days so I could get some extra material for the same price. Knowing myself I should’ve been more careful and in the back of my head were red lights.
To try and cut a longer story shorter, I received a whole box of DVD’s and books because I forgot to cancel the order. So much material it could last probably for 2 years of studies, considering the time I could possibly put apart to go through it all.
FF – I already had received a lot of material, but there were still more to come. A lot of money from my bank account started disappearing into cyber space and because of this reason a series of events happened today…
At this moment of time in my life I am sitting quite a lot in front of the computer. I have a lot of exciting projects that I’m working on and also spreading my love & light online.
Since I haven’t given myself time to sort out the issue which started with this e-book and turned into a confusion of money being taken out of my account, I can’t have too much money in my account in case they will try and take more money out. A knock-on effect of that would transform into charges from the bank as not available funds for direct debits.
As I was explaining – I don’t have much money in my bank account at the moment but had to pay for something online, which meant I had to walk for about 10 minutes to get to my bank and feed my account.
As I’m really busy nowadays, which is by the way my choice, I could’ve felt stressed because of the previous events leading up to this walk to the bank today. However, I was so grateful that I had to go to the bank because this is what happened:
It was a gorgeous sunny autumn day, which made me feel so happy as the whole summer here in London hasn’t really happened. I walked to the bank with one of my house mates, Demetri, and had a really beautiful and inspiring conversation about life.
The Parking Attendant with the forced smile
On the way we passed a Parking Attendant that was writing a penalty charge notice. As I’ve become even more spontaneous and crazy lately I felt the urge to open my mouth and this is what came out (in a cheeky tone of voice):
Maria: “Hi! How are you? Are you happy now issuing this penalty charge? (smiling & laughing)
Attendant: (forced smile) Why?
Maria: “Oh, it’s just this idea that a lot of people have, that we think that you must really enjoy writing penalty charges!”
My friend and I was both laughing and the attendant still had a forced smile on his lips…
I don’t know what thought went through my head just then, possibly no thoughts at all, probably a mixture of connections within my body which resulted in me following my intuition without thinking.
I wouldn’t be a very happy person working as a Parking Attendant and he certainly didn’t look happy, so I’d like to think that what actually happened was an exchange of healing.
That’s what I think as we all had a laugh. My friend laughed, I did and even if the Parking Attendant didn’t smile fully he still couldn’t resist moving the muscles in his face. It wasn’t just a smile & a laugh for me. It was so much more! I learnt that to follow my intuition without thinking works and I had the courage to speak my mind.
A visit to my bank
When I arrived to the bank I could’ve become inpatient and grumpy because of the queue, instead I saw it as an opportunity to send some replies to people through my phone. As I kept myself busy doing that it was only a short time before I got to the front. Time went quickly!
After all these years I know more about what is good for my body and what’s not. Bread is not one of the good ones, but it’s ok every now and then. So I saw the little shop called Gregg’s and my feelings told me to step inside. I’m happy that I did. I found a really tasty piece of bread and got some chocolate croissants as well. But, the best bit was non of that. The best experience out of all of it was the woman with the name starting with H. It wasn’t even the woman. It was her amazing smile & energy!!!
It made me so happy to meet her. A lot of times we forget to share our moments of happiness but since I’ve become more aware and present in my life in general, I shared it with her. When it was my turn I smiled back and let her know that she made my day with her smile. I told her that it was so refreshing and nice to see. She got really happy and meanwhile she was laughing she asked her Manager to come and listen to my feedback. He laughed knowingly.
My insights behind that was that I prefer to buy organic, brown bread from places like Whole Foods or any other health shop. Gregg’s for me gave me the initial thought of feeling as if I was downgrading myself in terms of health and life style. After this experience I realised that it was a silly subconscious judgement and in fact gave me healing, courage and beautiful insights about life. I also lived my purpose as I was mirroring the lovely woman’s bright smile & energy by acknowledging her. I left her with the words: “Keep shining!!!”.
On my way back home
Walking back home still with the sun shining I felt so happy! I felt so grateful for experiencing such an adventure, having so many insights, sharing my light within less then an hour walking through some previously perceived less inspiring parts of London – which turned into a magical journey with beautiful insights about life and adding another chapter of my future book.
We always have choices in our lives
“…Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.
I choose love, light & magical experiences!
~ Maria Love Yoo